MindfulNESS of grief
I wrote this book for my daughter Annabel after she died in 2004. I have come a long way since then as you will find when you look at other things I have written here on the sharing everyday mindfulness site. Bearing all that in mind, this is what it was like at that moment in time. Mindfulness is a wonderful help in facing the rawness of loss and if you or anyone else might benefit from my experience, please help yourself to the book.
Suddenly and unexpectedly, one bright Saturday morning in September 2004 my daughter Annabel died. Nothing could have prepared us for the shock of that awful day and the desperate days to follow. We've been on a very emotional journey since then, and I have written poems to mark some of the distance travelled so far. She had epilepsy, and that was a contributing factor leading to her death, but this book is not about the experience of epilepsy so much as the experience of loss.
In Part 1 of the book, my poems are an outpouring of fresh, raw and sometimes harrowing grief.
In Parts 2 - 5 there is a growing sense of calm, where I try to share some of what I know about Mindfulness, which is the practice I had coincidentally been learning at the time.
I wrote Bella’s Way all those years ago for several reasons - to honour my daughter’s life and to inspire others to learn more about Mindfulness. Being mindful in everyday life won't inoculate you against life's tragedies, but it definitely helps in coming to terms with them.